Kody Brown has not given up hope in his marriage to his first wife, Meri Brown.
On Sunday’s episode of “Sister Wives,” the couple had their first one-on-one date since their anniversary in 2019.
During a confessional, the 52-year-old detailed his strained union with Meri, 50.
“Meri and I have had problems like this long before [sister wife] Janelle even joined the family, “he said to himself, quoted by People magazine.” But cat fishing [scandal] was what really woke us up to the state of our situation. “
According to the outlet, Meri revealed in 2015 that she was cat-fished after forming an online relationship with someone she believed to be male. However, the person turned out to be an admirer. Brown and Meri entered therapy to deal with the emotional fallout, but the Patriarch later said he no longer wanted to be intimate with her.
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“We’ve spent a few years, a lot of counseling, figuring things out, and as we go through this process I’m looking for a spark – something to initiate a form of desire for a relationship with each other. “Brown said.” And at that point, it never happened. “
Brown told Meri he didn’t think they were missed because families lived apart in four separate homes in Arizona during the coronavirus pandemic.
“I think we miss the idea of us – we don’t miss each other,” he said.
“Speak for yourself,” she said. “I have a strong attraction to you, but I don’t act on it because I know how you feel. I can’t make you take care of me. I can’t change that.”
In her own confessional, Meri said she had tried to initiate a romantic relationship with Brown, but was not received in return.
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“He said to me, ‘You just need to let it be known. You have to flirt with me, “” she said. “And so I try these things and he recoils further, so I recoil more. I was like, ‘Oh, that didn’t work out. It was uncomfortable. ‘ You know? But at the same time, like, I want to keep showing myself because that’s what I want. I do not give up. I’m not leaving. “
Brown told Meri he didn’t feel like she was “courting” him.
“I didn’t know I was supposed to woo you,” she said. “I was waiting for you, honestly.”
Brown made it clear that he was “not suggesting that Meri sue me.”
“In fact, it could be disheartening,” he said. “But there has to be more magic in there than we have. She makes no effort. I makes no effort. Where do you think that puts us? She had to be loved romantically – so he has to. to have a spark for it. And then she will get from it, she will receive romance, love and a full marriage and sex. “
Meri said she was trying to get Brown interested in their relationship.
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“I’m going to ask him to come,” she said. “‘Hey, come on, let’s do something.’ Or, “Hey, let’s go for a walk.” Or, “Hey, let’s go for dinner.” He says no. When I ask, he says no.
Despite their marital woes, divorce was not an option, notes the outlet. Brown said “there is always a chance” the pair could reunite in the future. “
“My discussion with Meri right now is not about telling Meri that she has to divorce me, that she has to leave,” he explained. “I don’t do that. I will never do that. My faith doesn’t allow me, my conscience doesn’t allow me. And because I didn’t, there’s always a chance that we actually get it. back together in full brotherhood. “
Brown insisted he was no longer angry or bitter. He just feels that their love needs to grow.
“I’m sitting here with Meri saying, ‘I’m finally out of the anger phase. I am finally out of bitterness. Now how are we going to do this? ‘ And Meri says, ‘Well, you’re gonna have to love me.’ And I’m like, ‘Yeah, well, be cute.’ “
“Meri and I are married, but we don’t want to be part of a hookup culture, okay?” He continued. “Romance and sex are saved – in my world – for people who are in love.”
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Brown and Meri married in 1990. Three years later, the couple welcomed their sister Janelle into their plural marriage, followed by Christine in 1994. Robyn joined the family as the fourth wife in 2010.
Brown was only legally married to Meri. However, Meri agreed to divorce Brown so that he could marry Robyn in 2014. This legal change would allow Robyn’s three children from a previous marriage to access the same benefits as Brown’s other children.
Brown said he considered himself “spiritually” married to his four wives. The family shares a total of 18 children.
“Sister Wives,” a reality TV series on TLC, aims to show how Brown and his family navigate a world that seems to shy away from their lifestyle. The series has aired since 2010.
Being married to more than one person or having bigamy is illegal in the United States. Law in very Mormon Utah is considered stricter because of a unique provision that prohibits married people from living with a second “spiritual spouse.”
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints abandoned polygamy in 1890 and strictly prohibits it today. The Browns see themselves as fundamentalist Mormons.
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In 2019, Brown told Fox News the family agreed not to consider a fifth wife anytime soon.
“We really took the fifth woman thing off the table a long time ago,” Brown said. “And because we don’t want to snub the concept, we’ve always dismissed it very casually, and I think that’s one of the reasons the question keeps coming up. But technically, she’s not on the table while we’re doing the show. “
The Associated Press contributed to this report.
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